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Here Nina shares some ideas about personality types, vacations, freaking out and more. Check it out! We may not be taking many vacations right now, but this insight relates in many other ways. Thanks Nina!
Why We Freak Out on Vacation. It’s Not What You Think!
Why we freakout on vacation is not what you think, but I know it’s more than meets the eye. Have you seen it? A person goes a bit berserk on vacation. I have had a few breakouts, and honestly, I think we all have.
Traditional thinking on the topic goes something like this: you’re in a new place, not familiar with the surroundings, probably lost, trying novel cuisine … Yeah, that’s somewhat true, but isn’t this why many of us travel, to discover new places, cultures, food, people and more. This old-school logic isn’t holding water in my book. I’m calling #BS on these assumptions.
If you didn’t want the stress of discovering something new, you could have stayed home and watched National Geographic, and saved money. I believe it’s all related to personality typing.
What’s Behind the Vacation Freak Out?
So many things can contribute to a freak out while on vacation, but I think the number one cause is being out-of-touch with your personality type. You know those four pesky letters related to typology that many know about, but the majority of us are like WHAT!
Why we sometimes freak out on vacation often stems from an uneasyness from within. I don’t believe for a minute; it’s because we’ve lost the joy of experiencing life’s adventures. There’s an unexpressed knowing within us trying to grab our attention. These hidden knowings are often overlooked in our daily routines.
It’s so much easier to come up with a relatable societal excuse; it’s the kids, I’m overworked, I hate my boss, I’m too busy ⏤ blah, blah, blah. Yet, while on vacation, our daily routines are left in the dust. There’s no place to hide these subconscious knowings. So the freak out shows up to tell us it’s time to rewrite our life story. As an FYI in regards to Unpack Your Personality©️ I call freakouts – travel triggers, just so ya know.
Why Personality Typing on Vacation
Did you know we are all born with a distinct personality type? We, as human beings, tend to rely on what comes most natural to us as it fills us with confidence and enthusiasm.
While this is natural, what happens is we tend to stay on easy street. We’ll ignore the stop signs telling us this isn’t the right path or we’ve missed the detour, and now we’re really lost. Ignoring our unveiled potential leads us to question ourselves, and for many of us, we become restless and bored – igniting a midlife crisis. “Is this all there is?” “What is my life purpose.? “Why do I keep on making the same mistakes?” Or we ask, “How did I get here?” This is a question I asked myself and was shocked as the answers began to reveal themselves. I knew why I was too overwhelmed to deal with it.
Additionally, sometimes events like our childhood experiences, life tsunamis, societal and peer pressures, and our country culture hijack our personalities. Each of these factors plays an important role in shaping our personality.
Every one of us experiences their personality according to their individual personal reality.
How You Interact & Experience the World
Carl Jung expressed this idea using four psychological functions indicating how we know, and how we experience the world around us:
Sensing
Intuition
Feeling
Thinking
Travelers who have well-developed sensing and intuition functions prefer direct experiences; it’s how they perceive the world. Yet in very different ways. Intuition is related to immaterial, the unseen, theoretical, and metaphysics. At the same time, sensing is associated with the material, seen, observing, and hands-on experiences. Yet each function to help us gather information. (Understand this is how the letter P influences a personality type.)
Another set of travelers will use feeling and thinking, our judging function. It’s how we evaluate information, make decisions, and come to conclusions. But a feeling function is vastly different than a thinking function. Did you know 75% of females have a feeling trait?
FYI, I’m a female, and I have a thinking function. Please, understand nothing is 100% when it comes to personality typing. We are all different. In brief, thinkers tend to be logical and impersonal, while feelers observe the feeling of others and their own when making decisions. (Understand this is how the letter J influences a personality type.)
Often Misunderstood: Introvert & Extrovert Preferences
People often misunderstand their relationship with introvert and extrovert, as these preferences sit on the opposite end of the personality spectrum. The extrovert has an outward energy flow while the introvert has an inward energy flow. Let’s further define the two. An introvert has more of a relationship with self, and the world, with depth and intensity. An extrovert has a relationship between the self and the collective. They’ll happily share their time and energies with a broader range of people, places, and activities.
Here again, and this is the more popular expression of the introvert and extrovert preference. An introvert, experiences things inwardly, subjectively, while the extrovert experiences things outwardly, objectively. Can you see how not understanding your personality can lead to a vacation freak out?
How Personality Functions Show Up on Vacation
Personality functions show up loud and clear. This brings me back to the premise of this blog post… personality functions are often the reason behind the freak out. Let’s take a deeper look.
Introvert & Extroverts
If you’re an introvert, the New Orleans Jazz Festival, which attracts well over 400,000 people, probably won’t be on your bucket list while your extrovert friend or partner will be thrilled to have a ticket for the festival. If you, as an introvert, attend, I expect a freak out. It’s outer-worldly overload!
Intuitive & Sensing
If you’re an intuitive traveling with a sensing type rest assured, you’ll be like I don’t care about the facts, details, or particulars of a situation. And please, when I’m lost in thought, it doesn’t mean I’m ignoring you. In actuality, I’m thinking about the connectivity of it all, and yes, I probably did forget to pack the sunscreen.
Feeling & Thinking
If you have a feeling function and you’re traveling with a thinking type you’ll probably feel the sting of the logical thinking while on vacation. If your dying to go to the newly opened restaurant but the line is a mile long, your thinking travel mate will be like – let’s not waste two hours waiting to get seated. Yes, they say this knowing you had your heart set on dinning here. They’re not mean… they’re just using logical reasoning. And they’re likely to be out of touch with your feelings, and their own. This may have to do with an undeveloped or unhealthy thinking trait. Please don’t take it personally, and whatever you do, if you dead set on going to the restaurant, mount a logical discussion. Well, we won’t be here tomorrow, when do you suggest we go? You know I had my heart set on dining here, why don’t I stay here and if you prefer, wander around and meet me back here in an hour…
Why We Freak Out on Vacation?
Can you see how personality typing can have you freaking out on vacation? There are so many complexities to each personality type. Add in the layers of a person’s individual life story, which makes understanding one another all the more difficult. So while I can agree, a wee bit, with the idea of the unknowns of travel, I believe these physical symptoms are just the tip of the iceberg. Deep below the surface are oodles of personality potentials screaming to have a say in your big beautiful life.
Why We Freak Out on Vacation Is Not What You Think It Is
Are you now a believer? Do you believe why you freak out on vacation could be a result of not being in touch with your personality type? I hope this post brought you clarity on the topic of why we freak out on vacation. Believe me; I know this to be true as I’ve spoken with hundreds upon hundreds of travelers who let me know unhappy they were on vacation.
It’s the reason I’ve developed Unpack Your Personality© and the 16 guidebooks to help you explore your personality type pre, during, and after your vacation.
Your Travel Personality Story
Honesty, I can’t get into your unique travel personality story here, too much to share. So it’s why I decided to develop 16 guidebooks (tiny books) detailing your personality with supportive spiritual practices, and what it’s like to travel with you. I believe a spiritual component is necessary to assist with a deep-dive into your personality type. My theory stems from the idea that we are a mind, body, and soul. You can’t have one without the other. With that said each guidebook provides a mind, body and soul outlook; personality typing (mind), body (travel), and soul (spiritual).
Please know it’s always my intention to bring you closer to your authentic personality type, embedded with a spiritual practice so you can weather the storms of life a bit easier.
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My radio interview aired on Speaking of Travel part of the iHeart radio network with host, Marilyn Ball. Give it a listen here. I’m also working on 16 guidebooks on the subject matter of Unpack Your Personality.© It’s a modern-day approach to personality typing supported by spirituality. I’m working on finishing up the books, and will then need to get a printer, develop a Podcast, and so much more.
A new and exciting path for me. I look forward to building a community of seekers—individuals who want to know their truth and shine brighter in the world. We’ll become a positive force, the light-showers of the world. I’m super excited to make this happen. Are you with me! Let’s start a revolution!